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Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Danielle On Growing Up…..

I recently turned 25 this year, and I went through my quarter life crisis! Nobody seemed to understand the mental agony I went through. I’ve found that I’ve grown so much since 24. I’ve grown in ways I could never imagine. I realize that I’ve accomplished more in my 20s than some women in their 40s. I proudly accepted the fact that I was “getting old” after focusing on my accomplishment and goals. This has been a challenging, but fun year for me.

I believe that it’s quite natural to grow up and want to take your friends with you. However, the truth of the matter is that all of them are not ready to go. I had a deep conversation with my friend last night and I realized that I’ve out grown this person. I can not want something for somebody when it’s not their time. Friends come and friends go. It’s a great feeling to feel like somebody is going to be around forever, but we all know that people come into our lives for a reason, a season and MAYBE a lifetime. This has been my season for ending a few friendships. I can not have anybody apart of my life who is not willing to grow and add value. I believe that realizing that the things we want aren’t always the things we need, is a key component to growing up.

We all come to a point in our lives when the small things shouldn’t matter, and we should place emphasis on the things that really matter. I’ve come to realize that I was letting a few small things matter, when in fact they should have no place in my life. I’ve grown so much over the years, and I’m a firm believer in not being in the same place I was in last year, this year. I want to look back at those things I cried about last year, and laugh at them now. I want to think, “what was I thinking about”, or “that wasn’t so bad”. That’s all apart of growing up. I want people to realize that growth isn’t synonymous to age. Those are two different things. You can be 24 and act 14. Or, you can be 14 and act 24. However, I’m afraid of any 14 year old teenager that acts 24, but you get my point!

Every mistake is worth making. I don’t believe in “stupid mistakes”. How would we learn if we didn’t make mistakes? Every bad mistake helps shape and molds us. We’ve grown, because of the silly mistakes we made. I can say that I’m proud of the mistakes I’ve made. I do not regret them, because I’ve learned and I’ve grown from them. However, making the same mistake over and over again can be a little questionable about one’s ability to learn, but we just pray for those people.

I’ve fully embraced my hard times and good times, because it’s all apart of growing up!

-dls